Here are 3 key ideas to practice emotional intelligence with your kids and yourself.<\/p>\n

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1. See emotions as data<\/h1>\n

As parents, we’re faced with a lot of complex feelings – ours and our children’s. It’s easy to be overwhelmed. Some parents push feelings aside while other parents give feelings too much power. Instead, consider emotions as information: “Oh, that’s interesting. I wonder what this feeling means?”<\/p>\n

This attitude of curiosity helps us find value and insight from feelings while stepping back from reacting. The Emotoscope Feeling Chart<\/a> is a great resource for understanding the meaning and purpose of all feelings.<\/p>","tablet":""}},"slug":"et_pb_text"}" data-et-multi-view-load-tablet-hidden="true">

为人父母很难。

这里有3个与你的孩子和你自己练习情商的关键方法。

1.将情绪视为数据

作为父母，我们面临着许多复杂的情感——我们的和我们孩子的。这很容易让人不知所措。一些父母把感情放在一边，而另一些父母给了感情太多的权力。相反，把情绪看作是信息:“哦，这很有趣。我想知道这种感觉是什么意思?”

这种好奇的态度帮助我们从情感中找到价值和洞察力，同时退后一步，不再做出反应。表情表情感表是理解所有情感的意义和目的的重要资源。

2. Hold onto your choices<\/h1>\n

Sometimes we think, “there’s nothing I can do,” or, “my child is always going to be _____” or, “she will never ______.” We’ve tried telling, yelling, time-outs…. and we’re ready to pop. Remember, parenting is a many-years-long marathon, and it gets exhausting. And, that also means we have many chances to try again. To learn, to experiment: We have choices.<\/p>\n

This attitude of learning helps us parents remain resilient as we continue to adapt to kids’ changing needs. This is especially difficult when we’re in conflict – try one of these strategies to ‘fight well with others.’<\/a><\/p>","tablet":""}},"slug":"et_pb_text"}" data-et-multi-view-load-tablet-hidden="true">

2.坚持你的选择

有时我们会想，“我无能为力”，或者，“我的孩子永远是_____”，或者，“她永远不会______。”我们试过诉说，叫喊，暂停....我们准备好了。记住，为人父母是一场长达数年的马拉松，它会让人筋疲力尽。而且，这也意味着我们有很多机会再次尝试。去学习，去实验:我们有选择。

这种学习态度帮助我们父母在不断适应孩子不断变化的需求时保持弹性。当我们处于冲突中时，这尤其困难尝试以下其中一种策略来“与他人友好相处”。

3. Keep parenting on purpose<\/h1>\n

Parenting is one of the most powerful ways to affect the future. As parents, we directly influence not only our children, but a whole generation of young people who will lead, innovate, grow – and, many of whom will also be parents in turn. When we feel connected to our own sense of purpose-as-parents, it gives us perspective. The small things remain small. Purpose becomes a guide to help us navigate the complexities.<\/p>\n

This focus on the long-term, and putting our vision into action, helps us maintain balance and energy. One of the most powerful ways to build this is collaborating as a family on a larger mission — together, hold a POP-UP Festival in partnership with UNICEF World Children’s Day<\/a>. It works beautifully with a few friends, or a whole community.<\/p>","tablet":""}},"slug":"et_pb_text"}" data-et-multi-view-load-tablet-hidden="true">

3.有意识地养育孩子

父母是影响未来最有力的方式之一。作为父母，我们不仅直接影响着我们的孩子，还影响着整整一代的年轻人，他们将领导、创新、成长——他们中的许多人也将成为父母。当我们感觉与自己作为父母的目的相联系时，它给了我们视角。小事情总是小的。目标变成了一个向导，帮助我们驾驭复杂的事物。

这种对长期的关注，并将我们的愿景付诸行动，有助于我们保持平衡和精力。建立这种关系的最有力的方法之一是作为一个家庭在一个更大的任务中合作——一起，与联合国儿童基金会世界儿童日合作举办POP-UP节日。它在少数朋友或整个社区中都很有效。

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